I want to talk about perspective. I know this is going to sound crazy but we really are self-centered. We think the world revolves around us.
Spend 5 minutes on social media and you will see what I mean. I’m no different. I believe that is why we build things up in our minds. We only see the world around us through our own perspective.
Let me give you an example. I had six athletes compete in a physique contest this weekend. We had a couple of male bodybuilders, a figure girl and three bikini girls. One of my bikini competitors was telling me about a conversation she had with another bikini competitor.
This particular bikini girl was very tall (I’m guessing close to six feet, plus 5 inch heels). She was nervous because she felt that she was at a disadvantage because she was so tall. She stated that it wasn’t fair.
What makes this funny is that I overheard a group of girls in her class who were complaining as well. But they felt that THEY were at a disadvantage because they could not compete with the tall girl. They also felt that it was unfair.
So how can everyone in the class feel like it is unfair?
We do stuff like this to ourselves all the time. We dramatize everything. We make it bigger than it needs to be. And we fail to understand that that the world may not be as we have built it up to be.
This causes fear. We inflict ourselves with fear on a daily basis. How many times have you heard someone say “I’m gonna lose some weight before I sign up at the gym”? Huh? Isn’t that were you go to lose weight?
What happens is that this person builds up the gym to be an Olympus of sorts. They perceive a place where everyone is gorgeous and thin and ripped and awesome. And because the world revolves around them, they expect that upon entering the gym everyone will immediately turn around to stare at them, all sound will cease and the world as they know it will come to an end.
Do you want to know what really happens? Nothing. When you walk into the gym for the first time, no one will notice you. You will be as ambiguous as the paint on the wall. Why? Because everyone there is also self-centered and will be too busy grooming their own world perspective.
TMZ won’t be there to document your embarrassment. Fox News won’t have a reporter following you to get a statement. No one will know that you are there or remember that you were there.
So why all the drama?
You need to change your perspective. The truth is that the gym is just a place were people go to work on themselves. We are all at different levels of fitness but this is the one place where we are all doing the same thing.
To be honest with you, there is a level of respect that comes with hard work. If you go into the gym and work, people will eventually respect your commitment and work ethic.
That is a far cry from the expected humiliation we tortured ourselves with, isn’t it?
Give the gym, boot camp, cardio kickboxing, a 5K race, Barre class, yoga, etc a try. There is no need to be intimidated. There will be people just like you. Each of them will have their own struggle that they are trying to overcome.
Change your perspective and you will eliminate fear. Without fear there is nothing that can stop you.
Go get ’em!!!!