You are badass and you don’t even know it!

At some point in your life you were badass. Yup, everyone has a moment or two where they were tough.

Toughness comes in many different forms. It isn’t always relegated to physical prowess or fighting ability. On the contrary, mental toughness is more common AND everyone has the ability to dig it out of themselves.

Now, maybe you aren’t giving yourself enough credit. You never played football, took karate, ran a tough mudder, crushed beer cans off your head (stupid….not tough) or any of those macho endeavors. But, at some point, you were tough.

Maybe you gave birth (crazy, super, insanely tough) or worked your ass off to bring up your grades in school. Maybe you stood up to the bully or, better yet, controlled your rage and didn’t give in to jealousy, hate and anger. Maybe you worked a ton of overtime and saved to buy a house or struggled but came up with the money for your kids to have a great Christmas. Maybe you forgave someone that had wronged you. Maybe you comforted someone who needed it. Maybe you stayed up all night taking care of a sick child. Maybe you were scared to death to give a presentation but found a way to overcome that fear. Maybe you risked embarrassment but asked the cute girl out anyways.

These are all badass, tough actions. And you have done them.

The reason I am bringing this up is because you can’t learn from something you haven’t acknowledged. You have to give yourself credit that you do indeed know how to be badass, before you can evaluate the process and recreate it.

So, if you are struggling in any area of your life, I want you to remember a time when you were a total badass. How did that happen? What were you thinking? How were you feeling? How did you get yourself to do the things you did?

Once you find the reasons, you need to apply them to the situation you are struggling in now.

If you were able to stay up all night taking care of your sick child, ask yourself why? Love….right? That child is more important than your own needs, right? You need to approach your new problem with the same fervor you approached all those other moments when you were badass.

You have to make it important to you. Doing cardio needs to be more important than hitting the snooze button and getting 20 more minutes of sleep. Food shopping needs to be more important than watching Sports Center. The gym needs to be frequented more than the bar.

These are just fitness examples but this approach can be used in any area of your life.

Find your inner badass. It’s in there, trust me. It may have cobwebs on it……but it is there. When you unleash it you will feel a rush that has been missing from your life for a while. It will rejuvenate you. It will lift your spirits. It will give you hope and strength. It will give you purpose and make you feel alive again.

Tell me your badass story. I would love to hear it.

Where is the best place to workout?

Here is something most people don’t consider when deciding to workout. Surroundings.

We think about what kind of exercise, how much it will cost, what we need for equipment, what we need for clothing, where is it located, who are we doing it with, etc. But we don’t actually think about the surroundings as a major factor in the decision.

Surroundings are a bigger factor than you think. Some people make this great plan to workout at home. They invest in equipment, clean out a room and think that the convenience of working out at home will inspire them to be more consistent. Common sense tells us that this is a solid plan. Then why are so many home gyms being used as clothes racks? Because common sense doesn’t take emotion into account. Some people just want to get out of the damn house. So, working out at home can feel like just another chore you are doing at home. It can be no different than doing laundry or the dishes. That’s not real motivating, is it?

I have met many gym owners who actually go to another gym to workout. Why? It is because of similar reasons. Not only is it “work” but there are also business distractions that can intervene during your workout. It really is no different than home.

Then there is the gym. Once again, common sense tells us that lots of people go to the gym, so it must be the ideal place to workout. There are weights, machines, personal trainers, classes, etc. Then why are so many gym memberships going unused? Because some people are intimidated by the gym. Plain and simple. If you aren’t feeling great about yourself it can be hard to workout in public.

My point here is that we need to stop trying to put square pegs into round holes. Think of an environment that excites you and workout there. Maybe it is the beach, the mountains, the park, etc. Maybe the gym does inspire you. Maybe your home gym does the trick.

I’ve found that the most successful and consistent people have a feel for their emotional preferences at any given point in time.  They mix and match their environment based on how they feel. If they don’t feel like dealing with people, they might workout at home or go for a run. If the weather is great they might take advantage of the beach or park. And, if they are looking for that energy that can come from the gym, they go there.

Pigeon-holing yourself into one strategy will usually backfire. Create multiple workouts in multiple environments and chose whichever tickles your fancy. Consistency is THE most important aspect of being successful at this whole fitness “schtick.” Learn how to gage what your emotional side wants and then chose wisely.

How to get a Mercedes

We are “Daydreamers.” We spend idle time thinking about hitting the lottery, or never having to work again, or being on permanent vacation.

That’s normal. But probably not useful.

Believe it or not, you control those thoughts. They aren’t as random as you may think. We usually think about those things to engage in some escapism. Watching TV, reading, listening to music and a bunch of other stuff acts in the same way. It is fun to forget about your own personal reality and dream about hitting the game winning RBI in the World Series or living at the beach and being served Margarita’s.

But usually you are no closer to those things after dreaming about them. They are just pleasant dreams that give you a couple of minutes of “feel good.”

Now, I’m not saying you should give up your dreams. On the contrary, I’m want you to continue to dream. I want you to dream hard and vivid. I want your dreams to be so good that you feel like they actually happened.  I want you to smell, feel, see, hear and taste it as if you were really there. Hell, if you are gonna dream, go big!!!

But (there is always a “but” right?), I want you to add action steps to those dreams. For example, if you want to drive around in a Mercedes, I want you to go test drive one. You can do that, right? It would be fun. Then I want you to come up with three ways to potentially own one. So every time you daydream about that Mercedes those action steps will pop into your head. Now you are using the power of your dreams to plant powerful messages in your brain.

Do this with anything you desire and think about often. Attach action steps and make them meaningful. Test driving the Mercedes will strengthen your desire. Attaching action steps while you are in that euphoric state will intensify the thought. The more intense the thoughts, the more likely you are to pursue them.

The final step is to add this dream exercise into your “To Do” List. Make the action steps part of your “To Do” List as well.

Action trumps all thought. Thought without action yields nothing. Action (even imperfect action) without thought will yield a little. Action combined with thought is the lottery ticket you have been dreaming of.