We all have a superhero switch, what’s yours?

We all have a superhero switch. There is something inside each and every one of us that, once activated, turns us into “that guy (or girl).”

Why is it that, we have wanted something for a long time, but have been unable to act in accordance with that desire? Then, one day, in an instant, we just stop taking “no” for an answer. We stop permitting behavior that is preventing us from reaching our goals. We become driven, almost obsessive. We sacrifice what we have been unwilling to sacrifice up to that point. Our every thought is focused on our goal. How does this happen?

Something activated our superhero switch.

I coached four young ladies as they prepared and competed in a bodybuilding contest this past weekend. At some point, their superhero switch was activated. They gave up poor food choices. They stopped drinking alcohol. They sacrificed sleep to get up and workout in the morning. They avoided social environments that were not conducive to their goals. They attended posing classes every Saturday afternoon. They submerged themselves in all of the small details associated with competing (tan, hair, makeup, suit, etc).

You may have never competed in a bodybuilding show before, but you have had periods of your life where you were focused. You have had times where you were obsessed and willing to sacrifice just about anything to reach your goal. Think about it. Maybe it happened while playing sports, getting a college degree, passing the real estate exam, getting your driver’s license, buying a house, getting pregnant, getting promoted, hunting, starting a business, impressing a member of the opposite sex, etc.

Think long and hard about the decision you made to pursue those things. Why were you able to accomplish those things? What flipped your superhero switch?

This deep thinking exercise is vital to your success moving forward. If you don’t activate your superhero switch, you will be on the outside looking in at all the things you want in this life. It doesn’t matter what it is.

No one can tell you what activates your superhero switch. Only you can do that. You need to do some soul searching to figure that out. But once you do, you will have the key to unlocking your true potential. You will achieve and exceed your goals every time you activate that switch. The switch is universal to. You can apply it to any area of your life.

Sometimes pain activates the switch. Other times desire does the trick. Dig it out. Find the reason. Recognize it. Then use it to get what you want. This isn’t fiction or comic books. This is real. It exists. You just need to find it.

Why are you so critical of everyone else?

We aren’t really good at evaluating ourselves.

We have this built in defense mechanism that tries to protect us from pain. This defense mechanism changes the way we see, hear, smell, feel and remember. It does it’s job by protecting us, but it isn’t based in reality.

This is where the phrase “you hear what you want to hear” comes from. This is how people seem to miss things that are obvious to the rest of us.

This defense mechanism is guided by our emotions. Therein lies the problem. Our emotions aren’t always aligned with the facts. We see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear and remember what we want to remember.

I see this in police work every day. How can two witnesses recall seemingly different facts about the exact same incident? It happens all the time. Emotions can change the way you view everything……especially yourself.

If you want to be successful at anything you must first evaluate yourself honestly, without the handicap of emotion. What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? What do you need assistance with? Who can help you achieve that goal? How important is it to you? What are you willing to sacrifice? What are you not willing to sacrifice?

Be as honest as you can. Pretend you are evaluating someone else’s performance. We are masters at breaking down someone else’s strengths, weaknesses and abilities. We even go so far as to compare them to how we would have handled it. Think about how critical you are of everyone else (friends, family, co-workers, even professional athletes and coaches).

If you hold yourself up to that same level of criticism, you will learn a ton about yourself. And that will give you insight into what needs to change. Or, you can continue to be easy on yourself and live a lie. It’s up to you.

Your tricks aren’t fooling anybody!!!

“The truth does not cease to exist because it is ignored.”

-Aldous Huxley


I have two things to go over today. The first is to wish Mac (pic above) a Happy Anniversary. The pic above was taken on the one year anniversary of Mac hiring me (May 5th). In that time, he has lost 22″ from his waist, 7″ from his neck and he has lost 147.2 lbs of bodyweight. On top of that, he has received great reports from his doctor on all of his blood work. And, he has put a knee surgery on ice because he no longer has pain. Let’s not forget that he turned 70 last month.

But the biggest change is right before your eyes. That smile!!!!! This is a man that truly loves life. He has always been a social butterfly but now he does so without feeling self conscious.

I can’t begin to describe my respect for him. He has been diligent in his approach and it has paid huge dividends on his quality of life.

I always tell people that I learn from every person I work with. Mac is no exception in that regard. I believe I learned as much from him as he did from me over the last year. His journey is not over. We still have more mountains to climb but the foundation that has been built over the last year is solid. It will provide a framework for all that he will face moving forward. Congrats Mac!!!! I know that you will achieve everything you set your mind to.

Secondly, I had a discussion with my boot campers this morning. It was about the quote that started this blog post above. “The truth does not cease to exist because it is ignored.”

Our conversation had to do with evasive tactics our brains do with the scale. Tell me if you have ever done this. Have you ever not weighed yourself on Monday because you didn’t want it to reflect the decadence of the weekend? You wait until Wednesday or Thursday hoping it will readjust, right? Have you ever waited to weigh yourself until after you have done your cardio? Come on…..be honest. The scale reads great after Zumba, Boot Camp or a nice run, doesn’t it?

I have a question for you. WHO ARE YOU FOOLING? These tactics do not erase the fact that you have been AWOL from your program. The mere fact that you are apprehensive about getting on the scale should be a CLEAR indication that you know about your transgressions. So why try to hide them?

It is what it is. Accept it, then do something about it. You will find that this tactic will become a weekly process. The reason is because you are telling yourself that the scale will come back down in a couple of days. So you do the same shit next weekend. You used smoke and mirrors to trick yourself into believing that you fixed it. You ain’t freaking David Copperfield!!!

This is a sign that you aren’t “getting it.” And, it can be a problem if left unattended. Get real with yourself. Own up to your blunders, take responsibility for them and make changes. The tricks don’t work. Your plan does. Get on that scale. Be brave. Be honest with yourself.